13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do - Amy Morin
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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do - Amy Morin

Emotional Resilience has never been more important.

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One of the biggest problems I tend to deal with is "overthinking." There is a fine line between problem solving and overthinking. If I am being completely honest, I struggle to sometimes knowing the difference. When first stared our church in 2012, I will be the first to admit I was in personally uncharted territory. Not only had I never planted a church, I only had a few friends who thought church planted was a good idea!

Because of this, I was constantly playing out scenarios in my head. I was overthinking EVERYTHING. These scenarios would be possible conversations, possible pushback on decisions, and possible worst case scenarios. It did not occur to me until recently these were never ideas like, "What if something good happens?" It always started with the sky falling. Out of this season, I developed a fairly brittle mentality. It was easy to get me into a tale-spin and I constantly dealt with fear.

Slowly, I have starting learning better mental resilience and  mental health strategies. Much of my issues came from a need to prove, a need to be noticed, and a need to succeed. I wish I had come accross Amy Morin's book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do, years ago. There has been a point in my leadership journey where I have been guilty of all 13 struggles. By the grace of God, I am growing. Below is a synopsis of her list. I would highly recommend her book to everyone, especially if you are constantly expecting the sky to fall. It is well worth your time.

Which one from the list below do you struggle with? Let's talk about it in the comments. 

From her book: (All credit to her)

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

They accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

They don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

They don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

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